You know stuff.
You deeply deeply know so much. You know as much as any other person and it's as close as your body).
Your body knows YES.
Your body knows NO.
This is the voice of Love in you.
And yet you so often push it down, ignore it, blaze past like you've got wheels on your shoes.
I know first hand how it's easy to ignore that subtle voice of Love.
Love is always getting your attention, directing you towards the easiest path, offering you a reminder of the truth that you are good.
And you've got major blinders on, honey. Stylish? maybe. Helpful? not so much.
Honestly, if you could pause 20 steps back there when Love was using your feelings and heart and body to signal you, to tell you..."meh...nah...not so great...don't like...thumbs down...stop...this is not for me..." then I promise, your life would start to make more sense to you.
Life wouldn't have to scream at you with the headlines and disasters that leave you in your victimhood and chaos.
Heed the subtle messages. Slow down and listen to the voice that is always always speaking..."hang on there honey..."
Love is with you all the way. Love can not leave. Love is not annoyed when you ignore it's whispers. Love just loves you in whatever pickle or paradise you find yourself.
But Life is not here to please you. Life is here to please Love.
And when you stand in blame against all that comes to greet you while you're living in your "no', Life simply says, "but you wanted NO"!
Life simply loves itself so much that it is determined to work in this way: That we be given exactly what matches where we stand.
So...that person you meet from your ignored place of "no"? BOUND to be a "no" !
It can't be any other way. This is all co-created.
Our problems come from ignoring what we know and then starting a war with the reality we created.
If we line up with Love, everything will line up for YES.
Love stands sturdy in knowing who you are and sends that beacon to you incessantly. Constant guidance.
Life loves you and always tells you yes, no matter if you're in line with Love or not.
So if your life is bringing you lots of NO, then it means that you are standing in a place of NO.
Do you not see how deeply brilliant and wanted and capable and powerful and good you are?
Isn't it good to know that it can all begin with you?
Love is the path.
Do you find it hard to listen to that subtle voice? Does life keep bringing you "NO"?
Helpful idea for your day:
Ever pulled out a Tupperware of leftovers and taken one whiff only to gag and toss it in the trash? Let’s be honest, I’ve thrown away entire containers!
All of us know and trust our sense of smell (albeit isn’t all that strong) as a reliable voice meaning, “Hey! Don’t eat that!!”
Well did you know that your feelings work in the exact same way?
Your negative feelings are helpful and accurate guidance letting you know that your CURRENT THOUGHTS ARENT GOOD FOR YOU!
It’s that easy.
In other words, if your thoughts cause you to feel bad... it actually means your thoughts AREN’T TRUE!
Who could you be today if you trusted all that emotion just the way you trust your nose...or your skin when it lets you know “ouch, that hurts!”
Yikes! That thought feels bad, I think I’d better think a different one.
Let’s try it.
Here’s a thought:
“I’m a failure”
How does that thought make you feel when you believe it?
Pretty bad right? Your brain probably calls up hundreds of memories appearing as facts to “prove” your point of view and before you know it you’re keeled over and lying in bed wishing it was all over already.
All that^ means “nope, not true...think again!”
Now how about this thought:
“I can see how I would have ended up where I am now based on the decisions I’ve made so far.”
(This takes away the judgement while still acknowledging the realty)
“It’s not exactly what I wanted, that’s true...”
“I don’t have to figure out all of those things right now in this red hot minute.”
What do you notice in your body when you think these?
Feels different huh? Calmer? Quieter? More manageable?
Yep, then that’s how you know those thoughts are “safe to think” for a life of free of thought poisoning.
Also, once you find a better stream of thought, you’ll be amazed to find more and more good feeling thoughts can come your way too. My examples are just the beginning!
“I’m seeing how I’ve actually come a long way.”
”I think most things have gotten better and better.”
Your emotions are one of the senses, they are helpful guidance always letting you know which way you’re going.
You’re not alone here....You’ve got a loud and helpful sensor built right in.
What could be possible for you if you could trust yourself again, follow what feels good and right, turn your face upward and know with your heart that you are ok?
You are ok. (How does that thought feel?)
Pa If you are arguing with the thought of being ok, that means you’ve got other thoughts coming in...who could you be if you didn’t believe those right now?
Who could you be, darling?
Perhaps you could be who you already are, beloved and good.
Always beloved and good.
Do you know the beauty and magic of being present?
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I know the idea of being present or mindful is hitting the shelves like a fad these days. But I have to say, that the age old experience is not just a hypothetical one.
In fact it's everything you really want.
It's like waking up every morning to a cosmic parade of fun unfolding before your eyes.
You can almost hear the leader shouting "here they come!" as you move through your day. Suddenly you notice everything around you is coming together. You see people dancing on the street (where you used to see people tripping) You see people kissing and laughing and smiling (where you used to see people lost on their phones or distracted).
You see a spotted brown dog walking down a dirt road to a farm house.
You watch a giant semi truck labeled "LOVE" cross the highway overpass at the precise moment you arrive.
You go through life seeing each and every touchpoint along the way.
Everything turns to gold.
That's how it is to live in the present moment.
Sounds pretty good huh?
It's everything lining up for you. (*just for you*)
With all your preferences and wishes and dreams mixed into one incredible life.
What is your experience with being present? Have you had a time when those old stories about who you are just melted away like hot butter on a pan, leaving you utterly in awe of your life, your body, the abundance and the richness of the apple in your hands or the breath in your lungs?
It really is all this easy.
Because what you want out of life is so much more simple than you think it is.
You want to really notice when you look into the eyes of another person. You want to see the specks of stardust in their eyes.
You don't want to be forming a list of 10 things you hate about them (or yourself).
Or don't you just want the kind of life where every day is like being at the grocery store and that perfect song comes over the speakers and you find yourself gushing at all the other shoppers, proclaiming loudly how incredibly beautiful the vegetables are and feeling overwhelmed with gratitude for all the choices you have?
That can be more of the time...most of the time...very very much of the time.
This worksheet is my take (from my own experience and counseling background) on The Work with Byron Katie (find here) and The Present Mother Workbook by Catherine Weiss (find here). You will love the treasure of information these women hold, I hope you check it out.
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Have you ever considered your life and the way things unfold? For example, everything you experience in your daily life, the look on that person's face when you walk in the room, the music playing in the car as you cross the street, the number in your bank account, the words someone speaks to you, the timing of your errands, the people you run into, what if that's ALL a reflection of you? A reflection of your inner world, of your thoughts and beliefs, of your individual perspective and point of view.
What's it like to think that life is a grand mirror, my darling?
Ever offering to you what you bring to it?
Ever so honest, much to my reluctance sometimes.
And yet, ever so reliable. It's not going to give me something I don't already bring with me.
It can be frustrating and humbling to see what's reflected back to me sometimes...the chaos, the conflict, the half-hearted or boring. It can be downright discouraging to see when I'm offered hatred or mental illness, insecurity or things that are really hard to swallow.
And yet it can also be so incredibly freeing because I know that if it all begins with me, then it can ALL begin with me! I'm no longer a victim of my circumstances, I can choose to create them as I wish.
I go through life with acceptance that it is always mirroring me. Knowing and believing that it can not be any other way because I'm the one seeing it, with my own perspective and my own experience and my own beliefs. I can not see or experience anything that I do not believe or think. It's impossible! Your perspective is your set of rose colored (or any kind of colored) glasses. You can't see things any other way than what's focused in.
Your perspective is like a radio station. You can't be tuned into the country music station and hear what is playing on the indie rock station. You have to change the channel.
That's the difference perspective can make.
And if you don't like what's coming in on your channel, it might be time to make a change! This can start with simply acknowledging that
Not only is this an issue of perspective, but it's also a matter of brain science!
Our brains get rewarded for finding similar patterns and will specifically find like things to focus on as a way to create and organize the information we are getting from the world. In other words, we find ways to prove what we already think is true.
Additionally, our bodies create and release hormones whenever we think thoughts. So if you have stressful thoughts, your body is releasing stress hormones which cause you to move and breathe and react in specific ways throughout your day. Further, other people and animals are always reacting and responding to the hormones we release (through smell and sense) which in turn causes people's emotional states to be somewhat "contagious".
In turn, the effect is mirroring. What is your world mirroring to you today? For most of us, it's a mixture of things. But many of us would like more order, more joy, more love and less of the unwanted/random/upsetting things.
Would you like to master your own inner world and create a more wanted and satisfying outer one? For you and everyone around you?
I can help.
My counseling clients benefit from learning tools that support their healing from old patterns of distressful thinking. They get to walk away from the effects of old traumas and outdated threat that have kept their brains and bodies always in stress mode. They get to exchange no longer supportive beliefs for empowering and alive ones.
I use evidence based practices to support these changes in my clients. Call or email me today for a free consultation and more information about how I do my work.
Did you get a chance to see me get cozy for a Pajama Chat with Brit Stueven of The Break Changer? We sat together by the fire and used my self-inquiry worksheets to create change and space around some distressful holiday thoughts. In the video we discuss our aha moments and explain more about this really helpful worksheet tool (as adapted by me, originally the work of Byron Katie). Get yourself a copy of my version below!
Get your *FREE* PDF file of the self-inquiry worksheets at this link!
If you'd like more support on using this incredible tool, I am available for individual sessions and offer free 20 minute consultations as well! Keep an eye out for upcoming workshops and how-to videos in the New Year!
Does this ever happen to you?
Are you curious about the self inquiry process I mention in the video? Wouldn't it be great if you could easily work through your distressful thoughts by asking first judgemental questions and second clarifying ones?
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