There is no moment more transforming, than to be understood and loved in the midst of our shame.
The Well Sessions came into being after I’d spent hours upon hours learning to reach out to safe and wise people from the chaos of my worst moments.
I first learned how to ask for help when I was practicing twelve step work. The option of calling my sponsor instead of acting upon my addictive eating behavior was life changing, even though I resisted it at first. I was convinced that hiding felt better than being seen. Eventually I was able to recognize that reaching out for kindness and support from my sponsor or other group members actually felt better than using food (my drug of choice) to cope with my life problems. And it worked. I found healing through connection and support.
After becoming a parent, I discovered a land mine of unresolved trauma and grief that required me to slow down and seek healing yet again. I’ve had to continue reaching out for empathy and do something called listening partnerships. These days, I have scheduled and spontaneous listening partnerships throughout my week. Another parent or friend and I exchange listening time over the phone, each taking a turn to vent, talk, process, confess mistakes and cry. And like a good human, in spite of how much they’ve benefited me, I notice myself thinking, “maybe I don’t need listening partnerships anymore…” But, I still do. When I’ve ‘had it up to here’ I have a list of people I can choose to reach out to instead of losing my temper or doing and saying hurtful things to my kids.
The Well Sessions was born out of the belief that everyone deserves to be fully seen in their best and worst moments, fully understood and offered complete life changing empathy.
There is an old, old story told in the bible that I have always found inspiring. It’s the story of Hagar and her son Ishmael. Hagar’s life by modern standards would be considered traumatic and maybe inhumane. She was taken from her home, her country and forced into slavery. She was considered a possession. When her mistress Sarah was unable to get pregnant, Hagar was imposed upon to have a baby on Sarah’s account. Hagar was forced to have sex with Sarah’s husband, a man named Abraham. When Hagar became pregnant, all hell broke loose. Sarah felt slighted by Hagar and wanting nothing to do with her, was verbally abusive to Hagar. All things considered, Hagar was violated and abandoned.
So Hagar runs away and she goes out toward the desert and finds herself by a spring, where she stops and rests. While she is sitting there, an “angel of the Lord” comes to her and tells her that she is pregnant with a boy and that her descendants will increase and be numerous. He tells her to name the baby “Ishmael” which means “the Lord hears”. Hagar responds with shock and says “I have seen the One who sees me”. And she names the spring “the Well of the Living One who sees me”
Something about that story leaves me with such an appreciation for the idea of a Well, a place that represents hope.
When you come to The Well Sessions, you’ll be invited to drink deeply of wellness.
You’ll be seen and known.
You’ll be offered hope.
Reaching out is the first step.
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